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We Are All Siblings … Born from the Sea of Creativity

 I’ve been lolling around a while, so you may have seen me while passing by, moored here, tucked away in this safe harbor, where I’m resting up from the brutal waters of my last creative adventure.  I’m a social sailor — not a loner.  So join me, won’t you, as I ready myself to launch back out onto choppy seas. Buoy me up.  Sometimes, I’m scared as hell and really need you.  Likewise, when you need me, I promise I’ll be here for you.  We’re not much different from each other, you know.  True brothers and sisters never are ….

Are you looking for a harbor to moor in?  To rest a spell?  To recuperate?  Do you need someone to talk with?  Advice to ask for, and to give?  Then, welcome, brother.  Welcome Sister.   Or, do you need no advice?  Have you already learned all there is to learn?  Then, by all means, I beg you stay even longer … for you are coveted here.  Come, be among the first to join me….

Pssst!  You made it this far so why not pop over to the right-hand side bar and subscribe to my FREE newsletter?  Until I get other people to voluntarily rave about it, I’m gonna have to be the first one you’ll read as saying: “Jay’s newsletter’s a hoot!” and “Chock-full of writing tips, it’s information rich, while entertaining and funny!” and “You’re gonna wanna jump aboard before Jay discovers how great it truly is and starts charging a huge subscription fee!”



My Twitter account identifies me as “a writer, a salesman, an optimist, a dreamer,” and adds: “may the four always cohabit and produce wondrous progeny.” Each of the first two identifies a blood-and-bone human being, living in the real world who works very hard at being honest and caring—but, who is still evolving in these areas. The last two (“optimist” and “dreamer”) are foundational qualities in my life. They keep a fire crackling under me that hopefully fuels the writer … and also the salesman, whose hat each of us is hard-wired to wear. Sandwiched somewhere between writing and selling, I attended college and even tried my hand at selling high school kids on why they should love learning and reading and writing. That was a brief stint. Whether teaching failed me or I it, I don’t know. You’d have to ask the kids—though many might be doddering by now, and some dead. Still, experientially, it is a part of me. I am married, living with my dog, Sirius, in Bakersfield, California, and separately from my wife.

14 thoughts on “We Are All Siblings … Born from the Sea of Creativity

    1. Bless you, Janet for your comments. You’ve indeed buoyed me up. Will you come back again for my next posting? I certainly hope so. I’ll tweet it when it comes out. I’m especially proud of my series, “How This Critter Crits,” for which I included only the introduction here. With 60 + years of writing experience I feel like I have something to offer readers, young and old, and I hope this series exemplifies that. I hope you’ll be a regular, and when I get the guest contributor up and working, perhaps you’d like to toss in a blog. Again, THANKS.


  1. You’re off to a good start. Based on what I’ve been reading in WordPress, you should have an image for each post you make. Although your topic is information-driven, visuals will also attract a different kind of reader.

    Also, you should make categories for your posts, as opposed to having them uncategorized, and no more than 20. I have one so far and will be using a second one later this week for an interview.

    Other than that, you seem to be going in a good direction but then again, I’m hardly a pro.

    1. Revealing how new I am at this blogging thing, I’m probably answering this the second time. I know I DID reply the first time, but either didn’t push the right button or, in some other way demolished it. I so much liked your catagory suggestion that I popped right back on the site and added two catagories for what I posted. I still don’t feel comfortable with the catagorizing process, but sooner or later I’ll master it. Meanwhile I changed the image of the blog. More MAN-ly now, with darker colors and lotsa leather. It’s a guy thing. Tell me what you think of it.

      About the images, I’m going to have to learn how to drop them into a post. It’ll all come in time. Thanks for your generous help.


      1. Categories are helpful especially when you have lots of posts. It allows readers to click on a category and see all the posts associated. While it’s always better to be simpler…you need to have as many categories are you really need. I’ve had a couple different series and such on my blog. I want to make it easy for readers to see all the other posts in that series. They could do that with post tags but it’s easier to use categories.

        Pictures. They are definitely helpful. They can fill out smaller blog posts and add visual interest. Sometimes they can illustrate your point better than a whole lot of words. Since I learned how to upload pics, I’ve used them with most posts. has a creative commons search option so that you can find pictures that are free for you to use (each one has it’s own condtions, so you must read carefully). If you take your own pics you can use those too.

        Tags. These are super, super, super helpful in getting your posts noticed by search engines and WordPress. On the main WordPress page (I get there from Read Freshly Pressed), there’s all the popular tags under the Tags tab. There’s things like Writing, Entertainment, News, Music, Life, etc. Check all of the blogs that you read and see what the tags are attached to each post. Then, start tagging the snarf out of your posts (only with tags that really apply though…it’s annoying to come onto a page/blog that matches a tag like “free dress pattern” only to find it’s really a site for selling dresses…no patterns in sight…not that you are writing about dresses, but just making a point :D). Tags help readers find you through search engines. Check out Chuck Wendig’s blog TerribleMinds for some tagging fun. He has a post from time to time on Search Term Bingo. He’s talked about so many wacky things on his blog that he often gets hits from people searching the weirdest stuff. (He’s pretty graphic in language and description…but in a funny way…just to let you know before you read).

    1. Thomas, a million thank-yous! I can’t believe I misspelled “loner”. Must have been something Freudian in it. I’m so glad you picked up on it. More than that, I’m ecstatic that you chose to follow my plea and drop by. I’m so green at this. Please don’t take it as an indication that “it’s as good as it gets.” I would love to have you stop by in the future. Friends mean a lot to me, and I don’t want to let them down.



  2. I was so unsure when I started my blog. I had no idea what I was doing or which direction it was eventually going to go. I knew that I wanted to write about writing (which, as a fiction writer, wasn’t really the right direction). I’ve since found so many amazing folk in the blogosphere and on Twitter. I’ve learned a ton and am still learning (aren’t we always?). A little patience and persistance go a loooooong way. 😀

    1. Sonia, as you know (since I’ve told you), I’ve patterned my blog after your format — or at least I tried to. Yours is so professional looking, yet fun and lighthearted. You’re to be commended. I’ve got a long way to go. Like, for instance, when I reply to the wonderful comments I’ve been given by clicking the approve and reply button my comments disappear. I’m thinking it will show up later when I log out and then back in, but I don’t know for sure. Also, I clicked on “approve” at the bottom of the reader’s comment and it changes to “unapprove”. (I changed it back to “approve
      for fear that it would be communicated back to the reader that I “didn’t approve”. Oh, my! Anyway, I will learn. Will you come back?

      1. The “approve” button makes a comment visible to everyone who reads your blog. “Unapprove” would make it visible only to you. No one but you sees the “approve” or “unapprove” buttons. 🙂 As for disappearing comments…not sure. It might just be that WordPress moves the comments to the top of the list. It should all show up properly with each blog post though. You can check comments by looking at individual posts or through the Dashboard comment section.

        You’ll get it soon enough. Don’t worry! I know it looks like I know so much about blogging (flattering myself now, heh heh heh) but I was so green when I started. I’ve played around with everything since then. I’ve learned as I’ve posted and asked questions when I see something on somebody else’s blog that interests or inspires me. Kristen Lamb’s blog was one that really helped me out. That and her book Are You There Blog. She gives very good instructions on how to operate a blog. Her We Are Not Alone give detailed instructions on how to build a social media platform too. Great stuff. 😀

  3. Sonia,as usual you outdid yourself with advice. I’ve made a special file for all my blog advice and yours heads the list. You have been so generous with your time, and patience. I bought both of Kristen Lambs books. I’ll be spending a lot of time poring over them. Thank you for turning me on to her. I haven’t had time to check out Chuck Wendick’s blog yet, but it’s next. I just can’t thank you enough! You are a priceless asset.


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